Money! Money!! Money!!!
One thing i’ve learned over the years is that the lack or the abundance of money can indeed cause major friction in a marriage. What has been cited as the leading cause of divorce? What is the main stressor of most relationships? What do couples tend to argue about more?
You guessed it!
So does this mean that having money or the desire to increase wealth is certainly going to cause you and your spouse to drift apart? Does it mean that your relationship is doomed regardless of what you do, as money clearly can throw a spanner in the wheel?
I don’t think so!
What i believe is that money in itself, doesn’t wake up and ask people to fight, argue or dissolve their marriage. If we are honest with ourselves, we’ll see that it is our attitude towards money (what we think having it does or will do for us) that is the real problem. I am certain that if a couple has worked on building the right foundation for their marriage – pumped it full with love, trust, transparency – vulnerability, there is NO WAY money in any form (too much or not enough) will ever come between them.
So how exactly do you keep money from crippling your marriage?
You work on building your relationship with your spouse. Don’t you know that when you truly love someone and let them all the way into your heart, selfishness, pride, the need to be something you are not etc. are all parts of your being that fall to the ground? They get annihilated. You no longer allow any external force take over the joy you have built in your marriage.
Money doesn’t have to be a stressor in your marriage. When you find that you might be losing what you have, or lacking a bit of the necessary, you hold hands and pray for a way out and put in the work required to build your finances. It is not a time to fight and make your partner feel like s/he is a leech/spendthrift.
Catch my drift?
You and your spouse and to be a united front if you want to keep money from shattering your relationship.
Wish you all the best as you build!
ZeeZee is a certified Relationship and Marriage Coach who believes her purpose in life is to equip couples with the right tools for a successful relationship. Through her website and YouTube channel she shares practical tips and principles that help couples understand the inner workings of a healthy marriage.